February 7, 2013


Was it you or I who stumbled first? It does not matter. The one of us who finds the strength to get up first, must help the other.”Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration

I'm NOT sure which hurts more. A-Mean-Left-Hook? or A-Mean-Right-Hook?
Well, that depends if you're a rightie or a leftie.
Empathy is a simple WORD yet complicated VERB. that's what i think anyway. We can all SPELL it right and use it in sentences correctly, but how many can actually DO it??
Ever found it really difficult to show empathy especially, when someone else is exactly where you wanted to be at that moment of JOY ???
I was taught a tag line that changed my outlook on empathy.

Lord, as you did it for (insert name) you will surely do it for me...

I am strong believer in surrounding yourself with a good support system. Be it Family or Close Friends ... Everybody needs somebody to believe in them even when they are down and clouded by insecurities.
THEN again, there comes a time when the very people you look to for support...well, may just disappoint.
In moments like these, you MUST learn to roll with the punches!

Calm down and be realistic

Maybe... they are going through something right now. Or maybe its just the green eyed monster effect or maybe it was wrong timing or maybe those are just genuine feelings. Don't beat yourself up, its out of your control. ( NO. you will NOT kill them in your mind either!! )

Ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen?

Are you annoyed because you didn't get the reaction you hoped for? Or is there more to it than this? After you’ve calmed down and can clearly look at the situation maybe the worst thing that can happen isn’t that bad after all.

 What now?

COMMUNICATE your feelings! Let the person know how you feel about it... If you get all worked up and react instead of responding you’ll likely feel bad and come off looking pretty bad.



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